Why women have affairs?
Chat about a loaded topic that no one wants to talk about, this is it. Funny thing, married dating have been going on since millennium. Affairs can be burdened with troubles, cause sorrow, and other problems. In addition you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety issue, money, age dissimilarity, faith background, shame, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I shall define an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, discreet wives dating.
Why do people have affairs? There are as many answers as there are seek an extramarital affair. I am sure typically though it is only the human nature, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several explanations I have run across.
Biologically we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and exciting, and sex makes us flee the world for a small period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody can turn the wish on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another human being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos society has erected against married dating. For lots of individuals the yearnings will defeat their worries and make them risk the fury of not only their relatives, but society as well. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is awfully good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not injure your spouse or anyone else? You will need to minimize the risk you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest grouping, enormous in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they are comfortable in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the kids to look after. Your finances are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay as a family besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An extra-marital affair sometimes solves the problem while keeping the marriage undamaged.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a common groung I fear. One or the other, as a rule the male is sexually neglecting his woman for a tones of reasons. As a man I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them accessible to us males of romance, making them “milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, could be caring is vanished, could be it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Could be we have simply developed distantly, our relulas concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is contradictory of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for economic gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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